If you intend to get what you want, at some point and in some form, you will have to ask for it.  You can become almost anything if you consistently ask for it and show up ready for it.  If you haven’t expressed that you want something and you wait for it to come to you, it will take forever if it even comes at all.  You have to ask. and keep asking.  You’d be surprised the number of opportunities that go to the person who is there to take them rather than the most qualified person.  


1. REFRAME WHAT REJECTION MEANS AND CHANGE YOUR EXPECTATIONS:   aim for 100 rejections.  That way, I am expecting rejections and it’s a bonus if I don’t get rejected.  Of course, this does not mean to give up before you start or to ask in a defeated way.  

2. REJECTION IS NOT BAD:   remember that every rejection brings you closer to an acceptance.   

3. REJECTION IS NOT PERSONAL:   Untie rejection from your self-worth.   Rejection means that you don’t have whatever that particular gatekeeper is looking for at that moment.  It doesn’t mean that you are a flawed person and it doesn’t mean that you are bad at what you do.  

4. APPRECIATE THE OPPORTUNITY TO LEARN:  rejection is a chance to refine your pitch/ product.  It’s a practice.

5. RESPOND WELL WHEN YOU ARE REJECTED:   you never know if the same person who rejects you now will need your services in the future.  Thank them for taking the time to answer you and be gracious.  

6. BROADEN YOUR OPPORTUNITIES:     if you are to practice asking for what you want you may not want to ask for the thing you most want first.  Try to pick at least 10 things that you want but are not attached to.   You can start by asking for these. If your confidence grows after the first one or two then go for what you most want.

7. PLAY THE LONG GAME i.e. DON’T GIVE UP:  it’s often those who hang around long enough i.e. keep trying who become successful.  They eventually become the person that people know and call when they need that particular service.

8. FOCUS ON WHAT THE PERSON YOU ARE TALKING TO WANTS:   remember to think of what they are getting from the situation.  If you are asking to play at a venue focus on what you are offering them.  What kind of audience can you bring, what is special about your performance.  Remember, the interest of the venue might be completely different than your interest - some venues will take chances and be supportive of great original music but many of them will have an overriding need to sell drinks and that’s really what your job is. If you want the job, how can you help them do that?  


Here’s y(our) homework: 

what will your next 10 reach outs be and when will you reach out to them?  



Most of us are taught at an early age that failing at something is bad/wrong/shameful.  

Let’s dispel that myth right now.  Failure is a necessary part of success (at least for 99% of people.)   Part of a recipe for success is the willingness to get right back up each time you fail.  

A personal example: 

I have recently failed: On the first post of this blog I stated that my goal was to release my music EP by April 1 2018.  I ended up releasing it on September 14.  I missed the mark by a whole 5 and 1/2 months.  Why?  Sure sometimes things take longer than expected.  Maybe it’s hard to schedule with the guest musicians, maybe the mastering engineer is backed up for a few months.  In this case, none of those things happened.  Sure, I could make the excuse I was busy opening a show on 42nd street ( but even that is not a valid excuse.  The music was done for April 1st.  The one and only thing that stopped me from releasing it on time was fear.  I thought that maybe I could get a better vocal take, I could EQ the guitar a little better, - but I did none of that.  Here are the lessons that I take from this failure:   

Your first creative release(s) are not likely to be “perfect” but at some point you have to let them go.  Here are the benefits of letting them go on the sooner side: 

1. you learn from the experience of releasing them and getting feedback on them

2. you clear your palette to create something new

3. you have a chance to create other opportunities

4. you begin to or continue to create/add to your body of work  

In summary, if you are waiting to release something that you made and you are not doing anything to make it better STOP WAITING AND LET IT GO



As i’ve switched my focus from producing, arranging, and accompanying, to performing as a solo artist I’ve had to ask myself “when is it time to get out there and start performing?”   Although I’ve performed all over the world as an instrumentalist it doesn’t mean that I get to go right back to those same venues and perform as a vocalist/songwriter. In a sense, my new presentation demands that I start back at the beginning.  One question I’ve had to ask myself is “when am I ready to start performing?” Here are my thoughts around this:

New endeavors, especially ones as vulnerable as singing for a crowd, can inspire fear. If you listen to this fear, the right time to start will never come. You will keep delaying until the pain of not starting becomes greater than the fear - and that may never happen.  So how do you decide when it’s time? While the jist of my advice centers around starting on the sooner side - I want to add that starting too early can work against you. It can discourage you from wanting to try again or it can burn bridges with booking agents, venues, or audiences.  That said, here is my answer:

  1. EXPERIENCE IS THE BEST TEACHER.  You will learn more and improve a lot faster from going out there and performing than you will from rehearsing and/or from practicing.  Also, the more you are out there performing, the easier it will be to hone in on the things that you need to practice the most.

2. TAKE HALF A STEP INTO THE RING.  You can find partial ways to start performing (ex: open mics, sit in on other peoples performances, perform for friends and relatives.)  

3. PREPARE YOURSELF AND MAKE YOUR NEXT STEP EASY TO VISUALIZE.  If you want to perform at a certain venue go there and watch someone else perform there.  See what the audience is like. See what the stage is like. This will allow you to have the clearest vision possible of what it will be like when you perform there. Sometimes just seeing it is enough to make you feel prepared to do it yourself.  

4. GET FEEDBACK.   Find 1 or 2 trusted friends or family who will give you honest feedback that can help you.  Be careful to choose people who support you on your goals and mission.

5. TRUST YOURSELF.  The timing will never be perfect.  Don’t expect to be perfect in the beginning.  Bands like The Beatles and Phish played hundreds or even thousands of shows before they built the audience that they ultimately reached.  You will have to go through a learning curve no matter when you start. Start when you are ready or even a little before you think you’re ready.




Should my child become a professional musician?   This is the question I get most often from conscientious dads/moms who want to make sure their child chooses a field that will enable them to have stable income and employment.   


My answerNo. 

Here are the reasons:


1. If you are looking for economic stability in your chosen field, music is probably one of the worst fields to choose.    

No explanation necessary, this is the very reason why people ask this question. 

2. When something you love becomes your profession you will have to do a number of tasks that do not relate to your passion. 

 A successful music career involves spending a large part of your day on non-musical tasks. For example:  

curating social media content

updating your website

booking performances/ scheduling with musicians

researching venues, music blogs, music services, 

promoting your performances

and the list goes on and on and on

Popular advice right now is to spend 50% of your work time on music and the other 50% on the business side of your career.

Question if you would be better served by keeping music as a hobby where you can focus on only the parts of it that you like.  

3. Revenue streams are drying up:

How many CD’s have bought lately?  How much music in general have you and your friends purchased lately?   When I was growing up, every spare cent was allocated towards the newest cassette or CD purchase at Tower Records, Coconuts, or Sam Goody (none of which exist anymore - hint,hint)

4.  It’s very difficult to become established as a solo artist:

The sheer amount of individuals and groups putting out original music now makes it very difficult to cut through all of the noise and to get heard in order to build an audience.  A vast majority of people who attempt to make a career of their own music do not succeed.    It’s hard to find accurate statistics, but surveys like the following suggest that over 90% of artists are “undiscovered.”


Here are the reasons to go into music: 

1. Perhaps your stability job isn’t that stable after all

Every day there are new stories in the news about other fields that will be destabilized by technology -  truck drivers, lawyers, cab drivers, food service workers, retailers, have already felt the changes.  You may end up choosing a job for security only to realize there is no security to be found - now you have the worst of both worlds.    

2. New revenue streams are being created:

Sites like Patreon, Indiegogo, Kickstarter, Pledgemusic, and more are allowing music to connect with fans directly for support.   

You can make passive income for years with songs that are streaming on platforms like: spotify, tidal, apple music, and pandora.

3. If the idea of reading this and making a pragmatic decision about whether to go into music or not makes you furious and nothing can dissuade you.

Use that passion to fuel your career in music everyday and will your way to a successful career.  

4. If you can’t do anything else:  you think of, dream of, music all day every day and you believe that it’s what you’re put on earth to do.  

There’s nothing stopping someone who will not be denied from having success in the music industry.  If you show up hungry every day and do whatever it takes you will succeed.  However, don’t expect that you will succeed immediately.  You need to be able to give it at least a couple of years. If you don’t find the success that you are looking for in 6 months and are discouraged, perhaps you don’t have the passion that you thought you had for it.  

FAQ: SHOULD I AUDITION FOR AMERICAN IDOL OR THE VOICE (or another similar kind of show)

Many aspiring singers that I know have asked me about auditioning for American Idol or The Voice.  

Here are 6 things that TV shows like American Idol and The Voice teach you about having a career in the music business that are not true:


1. Vocal acrobatics are more important than melody or lyrics.  

No.  A song can be powerful without unnecessary vocal embellishments.   Meaningful lyrics, an expressive voice, or a pleasant melody can be enough to make a performance great


2. You have to be young to succeed in music.     (This is particularly related to American Idol that has had an age cap of 24 and 28)

In an age where the gatekeepers of the music industry are largely gone, people of all ages can release music directly to the public allowing anyone to build a fan base.  


3. Every song has to have a big dramatic moment  

Also No.  The song with a quick intro/verse and then a huge dramatic moment with lights and explosions is a good TV device to keep people watching but it’s a very over-the-top way to bring energy to a song.   


4. Great artists need to be liked by a majority of people and by “judges” 

No.    Many singers/artists have successful careers by appealing to a very specific fanbase or niche.  You don’t need millions of fans to have a successful music career.  Many beloved artists are polarizing - they are loved by some and hated by others.  


5. Music is a competition 

Music is not an olympic event.  Ask a great musician or singer what music is to them and why they do it.  The word competition is not likely to come up.  


6. If you win your career is all set and you are guaranteed long-term success     

You don’t have to look far to learn that many past winners of these shows are struggling:  Here are some articles:


If you do want to do these shows - heres a positive way to approach it:


1. Don’t think it’s your golden ticket

You will have to work hard and work consistently regardless of what happens on this show.

2.  Know that even if you win you might lose    

There are contestants who purposely tried not to win as the finale came nearer due to the restrictive contract that they would have to enter into.  

**article for reference:


3. Look at it as one event in your career and as a chance for exposure and not as something that defines you.  

4. Keep doing you

 If you are not a singer with a big and dramatic voice don’t become that for the show.  The people who see you and like what you do naturally will be true fans that you can keep well after the show is over

It DOESN'T Get Better

  We love movies with stories that move forward towards a goal or towards a great achievement.  In our careers and personal lives we work towards goals believing that they will bring us happiness.  


What if what you are doing now is as great as anything that you will accomplish in the future?  

What if wherever you are in your life and career right now is essential and inseparable from whatever you will achieve in the future?  

What if this part of the journey is as important and as great as any other part?  


What happiness can be gleamed from the simple fact that you are on the path* right now?  For example, what if playing music today for a few people in a small bar is as great as playing for thousands of people in a stadium?   In my experience it can be.  The gift and joy of being able to express ourselves through our art does not necessarily change or get better as ones career progresses.  You don’t need to look for happiness at the end of the rainbow.  To be on the path at all is a cause for great happiness and appreciation.  


*The path refers to any path of growth, self-actualization, self-realization, artistic development

Essential aspects of a career in music: Focus and Commitment

  Until they become the same, keep a balance of work for livelihood and work for your dream. 

Maybe in the beginning its 90% livelihood work and 10% passion work.  In music usually one can start closer to 80/20 because it’s already a luxury if music pays for your livelihood at all.    You can gradually shift that percentage towards 50/50 and then, hopefully, beyond that. 

You are competing(for lack of a better word) against people who are able to put 100% of their time into their music so your 20% must be focused and consistent.  Short consistent practice beats occasional marathon sessions.  The 80% of your work may eat up a lot of your energy but if the 20% is taken (at least) as seriously as the 80% then you will see results and progress.

Making an album from the artist perspective vs. from the marketing perspective.

Making an album from the artist perspective vs. from the marketing perspective.


The artist mind will begin working on an album asking: How can I express myself and my creativity?

The marketing mind will begin working on an album asking: What audience am I making this for?  


They are opposites.  Artists wants to express their inner vision,  the marketing person wants to make something that reaches a group of people.  

To only listen to your inner vision can be naive.  

To only think about the target audience can be shallow and calculated. 

 Strike a balance.  


Many artists are repulsed by the idea that their album should be calculated.  

Marketing people don’t take people seriously who say their album “doesn’t sound like anyone else” or is “totally original.”   


A middle ground must be struck for the artist who is conscious about building their career.  

Separate your ego from your product:  Of course it won’t encompass everything about who you are as an artist.  Live concerts can showcase aspects of the artist that is not captured on the studio recordings.  

The album is a product while the artist can be a process. 

Frequently Asked Question: Should I make my album by myself or should I collaborate?

Should I collaborate or should I do it alone?

Think about the song man in the mirror by Michael Jackson. It was a #1 song.  People listened to it and said “Michael Jackson is great, I want to buy his cd/go see him in concert.” Meanwhile, look at the credits:

  • Written and composed by Siedah Garrett and Glen Ballard
  • Produced by Quincy Jones
  • Co-Produced by Michael Jackson
  • Michael Jackson: Solo & background vocals
    • Featuring Siedah Garrett, The Winans and The Andrae Crouch Choir
  • Ollie E. Brown: Clap
  • Dann Huff: Guitar
  • Greg Phillinganes: Keyboards
  • Glen Ballard, Randy Kerber: Synthesizers
  • Siedah Garrett: Background vocals
  • The Winans: Carvin, Marvin, Michael and Ronald Winans
    • Andrae Crouch and his Choir: Sandra Crouch, Maxi Anderson, Rose Banks, Geary Faggett, Vonciele Faggett, Andrew Gouche, Linda Green, Pattie Howard, Jean Johnson, Perry Morgan, Alfie Silas, Roberto Noriega
  • Rhythm arrangement by Glen Ballard and Quincy Jones
  • Synthesizer arrangement by Glen Ballard, Quincy Jones and Jerry Hey
  • Vocal arrangement by Andrae Crouch


Michael Jackson only sang on it and co-produced it yet the average listener hears it and will give all the credit to him.  Of course it's not their fault, the radio DJ will only say "That was Human Nature by Michael Jackson." Spotify will only say "Human Nature by Michael Jackson."  There are some of the worlds greatest musicians/producers listed above but people are used to giving all credit to the person whose name is on the album.  Because of this, most people who hear your music for the first time won't know or care who played what. They'll only be deciding if they like it or not. That's why you have to hit them with the best possible product.  If you can get someone to play bass (or any other instrument) who is been devoting their whole life to be great at that instrument and it sounds even 1% better than you playing the part yourself then it may be worth using that person. 

Frequently Asked Question: I want to learn to record myself.  What gear/equiptment do I need? 


Here is a list of gear for a first home recording setup.  There are virtually infinite possibilities when it comes to choosing/adding recording gear.  An important principle is to make the most of what you have and to add as necessity dictates.  


1. A computer:   a computer will allow you to record digitally 


2. Recording software - otherwise known as a DAW(digital audio workstation.)  A DAW allows you to record music with maximum flexibility for editing and postproduction.  


    Most popular DAWs: Logic, Pro Tools, Ableton, Garage Band


3.  An interface:    an interface connects the computer with musical instruments or with microphones 


    three examples of (relatively) inexpensive interfaces:  Focusrite Scarlett, Apogee ONE, NI Complete Audio  


4. A Microphone -  3 (relatively) inexpensive options:   Shure SM57, Shure SM58, Audio Technica AT2020


5. Microphone Stand  


6. A pop filter - a pop filter eliminates annoying pop sounds that can occur when singing or speaking


7. Cables - USB cable for interface to laptop, XLR cable for microphone to interface, 1/4 inch cable for instrument to interface 


8. Headphones - so you can hear the music back and so you can avoid “bleed” (when sound is unintentionally picked up when recording.)

Frequently Asked Question: I want to record my music(single, EP, or Album) for the first time, what do I need to know? 


The recording process is traditionally divided into three stages: 


1. PREPRODUCTION:  this includes writing the song, being able to perform it properly, choosing how and with whom to record it


2. PRODUCTION: this involves actually recording the song.  You may record it one instrument at a time or with a group playing simultaneously.  Each instrument will be on its own "track" so they can be individually adjusted.  


3. POSTPRODUCTION: this involves editing, adding effects, mixing, and mastering


What is MIXING?:  The blending and balancing of the tracks together. This will involve adjusting each individual track to help it to fit into the whole.  


What is MASTERING?: after the individual tracks are mixed, the mix as a whole can benefit from certain adjustments  (for example - adjusting overall volume, compression, noise reduction, stereo width)


While you may get the best results from using one mix engineer and a separate mastering engineer for their recordings, to save time and money people often have the person doing the mixing also do the mastering.  Another alternative is to use new software(such as landr) that will “master” the song for you.    


This can all be done on your own laptop with a microphone or an interface or it can be done at a studio.

Get To Know The Players


PURPOSE: When you are starting as a musical artist, how do you get a clearer sense of your path beyond knowing that you want to be "successful"?  



You don’t have to reinvent the wheel. There may be some unique things about you as an artist but in all likelihood, there are some other artists that you are similar to in important ways.  Here's an exercise to help you to get to know the territory.  Who are 5-10 well known artists that you are like?   Let’s call that the “A” group.


Now pick another 5-10 artists that are similar to you who are a level of popularity below that.  Let’s call that the “B” group.



 And one more time pick 5-10 artists who are a level of popularity below that.  Let’s call that the “C” group.


Naming and defining these 3 groups will help you get to know the map of where you are going:

You can research things like: 

what venues are those artists playing at?  

Which artists are they co-billing with?  

How do they use social media?  

What are their fans like?  

While the A group might be inspirational, the C group will more likely show you what your next steps should look like.  


most likely, everybody recognizes some of the names in the A group but if you can’t name and are not fans of artists in the B and C category then you don’t have a map for your next steps.  In addition, you have a much better chance of connecting with and learning from the artists in your B and C groups. 

APPLICATION: Who are your A, B, and C groups?  What can you learn from them? For example, What venues are the C artists playing at?  What sort of image do they project through their website and social media? 

Understand that there is a difference between Music and The Music Business

PURPOSE: a piece of wisdom that I wish someone told me when I was getting started in music.  



In the world of professional musicians everybody is good.  Not everybody is having financial success.   Music and the business of music are two totally different things.  One can be an amazing musician and not have any financial success or one can be a decent musician and have tremendous financial success.   If you go into the music business thinking that you will make money just because you are a great musician, there is a good chance that you will be very disappointed.   If you look around and realize that you are as good as most of the successful musicians out there but you are not having success yourself, then music is probably not the skill that you need to hone.   Start to look at the business as it’s own entity.  As someone wise once advised me: “Wear your musician hat sometimes and wear your business hat other times, but never let them in the same room.”


APPLICATION:  Make a study of the business of music in a similar way that you study music itself.  

A Blog about the music business for aspiring performers, writers, producers, etc.


I’ve been very lucky to have lived out my dreams as a musician.  I’ve had the chance to play with and work with many of my childhood musical heros. Music has allowed me to travel the world many times spending time in the Middle East, India, China, all over Europe, and North America. As a youth I didn’t know anyone who was successful in the music business - I had to learn everything by trying, failing, and trying again. I have treasured and made a study of this learning process.  As a person with a love for teaching, I’m often asked for advice from aspiring musicians.  If the person wants to be an instrumentalist, this advice is easy to draw from my own experience.  However, more and more I’ve been asked about advice for aspiring singer/songwriter/artists.     I have certainly worked with many singer/songwriters but I have not pursued that path myself.  In the spirit of Gandhi who would not give advice unless he himself had direct experience in the subject, I will attempt to take steps on the singer/songwriter path.  I will lay out every step that I take and the philosophy behind it.  I will also add some of the most valuable lessons that I have learned in the past.  This blog is for anyone who is taking sincere strides to add positivity to the world through sharing their art.  Though we live in a culture that is competitive, I believe that it is best for all and most true to our nature to freely share wisdom and knowledge.  




#1 Make Something

Wisdom piece:  A quote from producer Brian Grazer “It doesn’t have to be great, it just has to exist


you have to make something.  It doesn’t matter how good you are if people have no way to hear or to know what you do.   Let go of any perfectionism at the point.  Most people don’t love their 1st albums, 1st composition, 1st whatever.  Put out something and then continue to develop your artistry.   You will learn far more by taking a project to completion than by waiting for for perfection.  Nothing on this earth is perfect.  

Put stuff out. Let me rephrase that: be good, and then put stuff out.  Focus on consistent strong releases.  It used to be that a musician could put out an album every few years and build a career.   That time is over. The power is continuing to move away from the big record companies into the hands of the individual artists.  Get on a regular schedule of releasing music, blogs, videos, and whatever other content you create.  


Application:  Albums used to be the standard format for releasing music.  Nowadays its more common to release an EPs (see below) or singles(single songs.)  

Definition:  An EP (short for extended play) is a musical recording that contains more music than a single, but is usually too short to qualify as a full studio album or LP.  An EP typically has 3-5 songs.  


Personal Goal:  Release an EP by April 1 2018


What is YOUR goal for a release?